So my boyfriend or rather ex (I’ve never used that before in reference to him) broke up sometime back and through my stages of getting over him( which included, blocking him, deleting his number, blocking him on all social media, unblocking him, stalking on social media, blocking again et al) I later had a sit down with myself, literally and jot down things that helped me not be hurt as much and this is what I wanna share with you guys:
Avoiding their social media
As much as I wanted closure or so I told myself, social media wasn’t the best place because I actually got hurt more when finding out things I never saw before, so in case of a next time( one I never wish for) that’s a no go zone.
Don’t look for faults in your life.
Am actually glad I didn’t go this route coz straight up it’s terrible. I actually was watching some local program and funny enough the topic was moving on, not really from relationships but work related stuff, so yeah I took this advice and it really helped me big time.
Avoid the locals.
We used to hangout at some local place and even passing around the place brought memories, so I tried so hard not to pass or go there. It worked magic not so fast but it still did help a lot.
Take a break.
I know y’all spent years (I did 3 years +) and if it didn’t end so badly you might be tempted to reach out, know how each other is doing or whatever excuse you’d use to console yourself, but this is the worst move ever, or at least it was to me. So you just broke up, one has moved on maybe and you go reviewing all the sweet memories, honey lemme be straight, baaaad idea, pull out fast, back up, retreat coz this is straight up a road to downtown being hurt all over again.
Anyway if anyone is going through this confusing time, we need a group to comfort each other, coz my ways are not working so we’ll😥. I hope y’all go through this so fast, recover, bounce back, experience better love and overall, be HAPPY. 😘😘😘